Sexual fantasies: what psychologists say about them

Each of us had, is and will have sexual fantasies.
That's the way a person is. And there is nothing reprehensible in this, you just need to try to use these fantasies to your advantage. Let's agree right away that fantasies are a product of clear consciousness, because in a dream we see dreams.

Despite the fact that fantasy is just a flight of imagination, something completely unrelated to reality, it helps a person to break the boundaries of everyday life, to feel vivid emotional experiences. A person's fantasies can give him pleasure, they can surprise him and even cause protest. Another of the properties of fantasies is that we very rarely trust them even to a loved one.

Share your dream with your loved one

From a story in a psychologist’s office: “My husband and I can be called a happy couple, we have been together for five years. Everything is wonderful with us both at home and in bed. I never had the thought of another man. I suffer from this. Several times, when I was alone at home, I went to the bathroom, undressed and imagined that a strange man suddenly bursts into me and takes possession of me very rudely and quickly. I experience a very strong arousal, and then an orgasm. After some time, I become very ashamed of these thoughts and fantasies. But these are just fantasies, and my husband will never know about it! Olga M. "

However, according to professional psychologists, this is precisely what is bad - that Olga's husband will never know about his wife's erotic fantasies. If she, having chosen the right moment, told her husband about her dreams, perhaps he would change his behavior in bed and give his wife those feelings that she apparently lacks now.

Sexual fantasies, as a rule, reflect the real needs of a person, but sometimes, on the contrary, they cause completely unexpected desires. Often they reflect the real stories of what they saw, heard, read. If a plot becomes attractive to a person, then he tries to relive this event again and again, and the dreamer himself most often plays the main role in these plots. In other cases, a person causes certain fantasies, remaining, as it were, on the sidelines, preferring the role of a director, an attentive observer.

It should be immediately noted that the constant "scrolling" in the imagination of favorite plots can become a kind of dope, a necessary part of a person's sexual arousal. In this case, the sexual reaction to the partner is weakened, and the readiness for intimacy depends entirely on the stimulating effect of the fantasy.